Sunday, December 30, 2012
My hopes and resolutions for 2013 are to write and journal more. To keep a journal of the boys' milestones and funny sayings to remember. To get to a healthy weight and feel confident in my body again. To improve on being loving, patient and kind. To practice more random acts of kindness and gratitude. To be more adventurous. To make time for myself, time for yoga, time for meditating. To start fulfilling a vision I have for where I want to be in our lives. I want to let go of the past, heal, forgive myself and others and move forward. I'm sure I will think of more memories and more resolutions as this week goes on. Right now I can't help but feel an excitable energy for what's to come and bless the past with a smile, knowing each year is new experiences and ways to change and evolve. Happy 2013 to everyone. I hope this year treats you with love and happiness and you can look back on the positives of 2012 with a smile as well.
Friday, November 2, 2012
You are such an incredible boy. Sometimes I just sit and stare at you. You look like a perfect little doll. I feel sorry for people that haven't made an effort to get to know who you are. You have such deep thought in those blue green eyes of yours and a spirit that I can only hope evolves but never fully changes. You have an amazement, wonder, and humor that is infectious. You love and trust deeply, please do not ever loose those qualities. Your favorite thing to do is run and hug my leg, you tell me all the time how much you love me and when I tuck you in at night you ask for hugs and kisses then stare into my eyes, pet my face and kiss my cheeks. I know these moments will not last forever and I cherish every one in case its the last time. Sometimes there is nothing more fun than annoying your older brother but you also pride yourself on being a big boy and being an excellent big brother to Baby J. I cannot wait to see what this year of your life brings and how your grow and change even more and how I change as a mommy. Thank you my little Pipsqueak, my dancing partner, my crazy monster for picking me as your mommy. I thank God every day for you.
Monday, September 17, 2012
We are 3 days into the 7 Night's of sex challenge. I've noticed that we are a lot more flirty and touchy feely today. Tonight I wasn't as stuck in ny head. At one point it seemed like a meditative state. It was just relaxing. I find it interesting all 3 night's have been very different.
Sunday, September 16, 2012
For anyone that hasn't seen Lifetimes show 7 Nights of Sex the premise is that we all know that after years in a relationship, kids, bills, stress, work.. etc romance and sex tend to fall away. One of my favorite relationship quotes is "Love is friendship set on fire" and it's true, passiob, attraction, and sex sets friendships and roommates apart from lovers and couples. But it is so very easy to forget that. Most women want romance and thoughtfulness and men want that sexy temptress in Tue bedroom, we were probably those things for each other falling in love and then life happens. This challenge is to have couples commit to 7 nights straight of sex no matter what. Committing to the passion, the sensuality and the sexy side of the relationship. After 2 babies in 2 years and trying to connect with and love myself and my body again I thought we could use this kind of commitment to each other physically and mentally again.
Day 1 was sort of easy because we went a week without sex before and really let it build up, then had an at home date and a few drinks.
Day 2... A little harder. I've been sick with a cold and exhausted all day. Plus I have a monkey mind that goes and goes full of a thousand things and it's difficult to shut off and just feel. After a few mins of woosah, I shut the thoughts off and we kissed... Like really kissed. It was tender and sweet. I could get used to this. :)
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
Sometimes I see moms complaining and think to myself "We want to be martyrs because that's what we are used to hearing from other moms for generations" I think we make it hard on ourselves when it doesn't always need to be. Here's my tips:
#1: Make A Schedule.
One thing I do is give myself a "clock out" time. After this time of night I'm off so to speak. Ill cook dinner and tend to my kids if they get out of bed, are sick, or had a bad dream just like a mom that works outside of the house. However I don't do anymore housework. Once my boys are in bed for the night I give myself 30 more mins to finish up the end of the day stuff like vacuuming and cleaning up the kitchen and then I'm off. The rest of my night is to have time to watch TV or movies, read a book or one on one time with my husband. Granted I still don't go to bed before midnight usually but that's because I'm a night owl. I also use this time at night to work out if I didn't have time that morning.
#2: Teach your kids to entertain themselves
Kids having the ability to play alone is just as important as you playing together and them playing with other children. They need to feel secure enough to be self sufficient in some areas. This also helps when you need a mental break during the day or you need to tend to housework, work out, or make dinner.
#3: Empower your kids to make their own choices and teach them through daily life and play.
If you're trying to cook and your kiddo is clinging to your apron then sit them up on the counter at a safe distance and teach them how to cook. Cooking is also a great math activity as well. If you're cleaning then give them a towel, have them help load or unload the dishes (Toddlers can handle the plastic unbreakable stuff) If they're too young for that invest in a wrap. They are life savers!
#4: Pick your battles
Ask yourself how much this will this matter in the long run then let it go if you can. Clothes don't always have to match and sometimes breakfast for dinner and mashed potatoes and green beans for breakfast is ok.
#5: Take a time out when you need it
Time outs aren't just for kids. If you feel like your head is going to explode, they can play alone for 5 mins while you take a few deep breaths
#6: 15 mins is your best friend
Grab your to do list and work on it for 15 mins then stop to play. By the end of the day everything is done and youre not overwhelmed.
Most of all take one day at a time and enjoy your babies because the won't be little long. I do a good job balancing everything usually and sometimes I don't. I'm lucky to have a supportive husband and family to help on the days I have cracked. So be gentle with yourself and do the best you can.
Sunday, July 1, 2012
One of my favorite resources is FlyLady. She really gave me a foundation for my routine. I downloaded her app for my Android phone for a bit and then went with a new app call Chore List that I have customized for myself.
1. One of my favorite tips is instead of having a laundry day as soon as you wake up put a load of laundry on, switch and fold it (I'm terrible about the folding part so I have a folding day) It keeps from getting overwhelmed with a ton of dirty clothes.
2.Swish and Shine is another Fly Lady tip. While brushing your teeth during the rinse, wipe down your bathroom counter and mirror, when you're done and leave grab the dirty clothes to start for a wash. BAM! Your bathroom is always company ready!
3.I have 3 kids so I reserve floors and dishes for the last part of my day. While the boys eat dinner and the baby naps or I'm wearing him I wipe counters and load the dishwasher. Once they're in bed I run the vacuum and mop. No point in doing housework twice.
4. Delegate, Delegate, Delegate! My oldest is almost 5 yrs old, he has his list of contributions to the house. He's mainly responsible for the cleanliness of his own room. He shares with his brother who is only 19 mos so M helps a little. I'm teaching him to pick up and put away. N feeds the dog in the morning, his fish, takes care of his room, cleans his dishes from his spot at the table, and at the end of the day he picks up and puts away his toys with M's help. As the younger boys get older they will have their own set of responsibilities.
5. When you absolutely don't feel like cleaning do 15 minute bursts. Pick a chore and set a timer, clean for only 15 minutes then relax for 15. You can do anything for 15 mins.
6. Give yourself a "time off" My workday ends when I put the kids to bed. By bedtime I enjoy the nighttime routine with my boys then vacuum and I'm "off". No more dishes or folding etc. This gives you 3-4 hours depending on when you go to bed for adult time with your spouse or just you time.
7. Make sure your kids have a set bedtime routine. Consistency is imperative for this. Children need routines and stability. Giving yourself time off at the end of the day hinges on your kids ability to stay in bed and be comfortable going to bed on their own.
8. If you have a "big" cleaning day (Mine is usually Saturdays) Don't schedule errands for that day if possible. No reason to overwhelm yourself.
9. Never feel bad about saying "NO". Your family, your relationship, yourself, and your home comes first. Helping friends and extended family come second. Don't over extend yourself.
10. Set up a household hub station. I used the dishwasher rack idea from Pinterest. I have a binder with family info and folders for incoming mail, medical info, reciepts, warranty info, etc. It keeps everything right where you need it.
|Perry Family Hub|
|Perry Family Hub|
Here's is my checklist routine to give you an idea:
Make the bed first thing (Makes your room feel better and you instantly feel like you've accomplished something)
Start a load of laundry
Help with toy clean up
Take out trash and recycling
General living room clean up
Vacuum Living room
Before bed make breakfast for the older boys and set up bottles for over night feedings for Baby J
Set coffee maker up
Change bed linens
Sweep front porch
Fold and put away clothes
Wipe sliding door glass
Clean kitty box
Wash out trash cans
Wipe walls, pictures etc
Organize and throw out papers
Disinfect toys and rotate old toys
I hope this helps anyone get a routine of their own going. Downloading the apps def helps and Fly Lady is a wonderful resource!
Saturday, June 30, 2012
I'm being more patient in general but especially with my parenting. I always thought when people said you had to have "you" time or take care of yourself first to be able to take care of your kids they meant time away from my kids, more than I was willing to do. But I understand now that it doesn't have to mean that. I am still in the dreading the workout phase a little but throughout my day I notice I'm able to implment the Love and Logic practices so much easier, AND I haven't yelled in a week. I'm really proud of myself in that area since I have a tendency to be a "yeller"
I have a much higher sex drive. I think mostly because I have more energy and confidence just knowing that I may not look any different yet but that I'm committing to being different.
See above. I have more confidence Haha. I'm also being more outgoing. I feel a bit f my old self but better returning.
I'm sleeping better, when I can sleep. Baby J is still waking up at least once a night for about 2 hours.
We had to skip this morning so we are about to do our workout tonight instead. If there's time for Facebook or Blogging there's time for Insanity.
Friday, June 29, 2012
|This is me. 29 years old, after 3 kids, 2 of them in less than 2 years and a miscarriage in between the 2. This is my "Before" picture. 172 lbs and 5'8" This is what I wont be again.|
Im doing this:
So I dont have to wear 2 shirts or any shirt that could double as a flow-y maternity shirt to hide my stomach.
For the gap between my thighs and the V on my hips
For no muffin top
Because I will not have the excuse "Well I have had babies" I'm doing it BECAUSE I have babies and they deserve a mommy that plays with them, not watches from a chair.
For the Haters. For those people that think I can't or won't or that I will give up. The ones that think I'm not strong enough or dedicated enough.
Because I refuse to quit and give up on myself
Because everyday I have the eyes of a 4 year watching me stop, take a breath and make a choice to keep going when I think I can't go anymore. Parenting is mostly by example, I wont set the example that giving up when it hard is okay.
I feel amazing after I am dripping with sweat, barely breathing, red-faced, showering and lathering up my girly smelling soap. It reminds me I can kick ass and be feminine in the moment
So I dont have to wear a tankini and I can wear a bikini ;)
To make his jaw drop, so he whispers "wow" when he sees me, so we can live life together and not just talk about it from the couch.
Because today after only 3 days of pushing myself I achieved 2 goals and it proved to me it's worth it, and I CAN DO it.
Friday, June 15, 2012
Monday, May 21, 2012
We checked into the hospital at 7am on Saturday morning. They got my IV in and checked my cervix, I was at 3cm before the pitocin had even started which was a huge start for us considering with my last 2, my labor stalled at 3cm for 4-5 hours but I was already there. I made the decision to not get an epidural until I was at 5cm to keep labor progressing. My doctor comes in by 9am and breaks my water, then the contractions really start hitting hard. Briefly I feel back labor going and my doula (who is amazing by the way) has me sitting in different positions to help him rotate and right about that time the iPod is hooked up with our birthing music. One really memorable moment for me was sitting on the edge of the bed, leaned forward onto J during contractions and having him whisper in my ear how great I was doing and how strong I was. I felt like we were completely entangled and alone in those moments. The next day I saw this picture and it was a perfect representation of that moment
I did have to laugh at one part waiting to be able to push when 'Under Pressure' came on and I thought "How fitting!" Haha!
After 10 mins of pushing and an epidural that did not numb my vaginal area I was actually vocal through pushes and Baby J was laid in my arms. He is beautiful.
Over the next couple of days I come across some nurses from the nursery make a few comments about my choice to formula feed and a lactation consultant that was supremely helpful and made me really happy. I was really surprised that one nurse made a comment to me that Baby J was eating too frequently and the comment "He's not a breastfed baby, you don't have to feed him on demand, he should only eat every 3-4 hours" came about. Ummm... I'm fairly sure I'm not going to withhold food from my baby when he's hungry because my schedule says its not time to eat yet.. Who does that?! And this woman had obviously never met one of my boys before. Then another nurse that asked if I wanted him brought right back after his lab work or if she should just keep him and until his next feeding and feed him to which I replied "Bring him right back please, we feed him on demand so there isn't a set time he will eat again" She looked at me completely shocked like I had said I wanted to eat him for breakfast or something. Why is that weird? But lastly the awesome lactation consultant. One of my nurses had sent her in to answer a few questions about drying my milk up as it came in and she was so very pleasant and answered all of my questions without trying to change my mind or be pushy whatsoever. I loved her for that.
Overall my experience at Mercy for the 2nd time was great. The staff for the most part were awesome as usual. I am sad and relieved its over. I have felt the baby blues wash over me right after he arrived and I haven't quite been able to shake it off yet. I'm sure I will. I have struggle with it the most today. I feel like I should feel more empowered by my birth experience. Right now I feel scared and a little overwhelmed at being a mommy of 3, I feel guilty I need to depend so much on J over the next few weeks, I feel sad that this was the last time seeing my baby for the first time and being tucked away in our hospital room, tummy nap cuddles, and studying every feature on their face for hours. Soon J will be running crazy with his brothers with only enough time to briefly stop for a hug and even sooner after that they will all just be too busy. I want to freeze time right now, but that isn't possible. All I can do right now is soak it all in, cry when I feel the need to and lean on J just like I did during labor.
Baby J is a great baby, hes calm, quiet and sweet. He's bigger than M was at birth but he seems so much smaller because his features are so petite. And he looks a bit like me (finally!) yay! I am a truly blessed mama. I just hope I kick the weepy feeling soon.
|Before you were born,. we dreamed of you, we imagined you,. we prayed for you. Now that you are here,. We hope for you, we love you,. we Thank God for you.|
Sunday, April 22, 2012
I feel double the anxiousness recently and I just hit me why. Baby J is our last baby, so in the midst of being anxious and wondering when he will be here, what he will looks like, how he will fit into our family, will M try to hit him with something (probably..), how will I be not only to a mother of 3 now but 3 boys etc. I am realizing I am about to give birth to a new version of me. No more pregnant K ever. I'm leaving my 20's behind also. Ive noticed my tolerance for some of the actions of my friends recently getting lower and I'm increasingly getting less tolerant of people's bullshit. I feel myself standing on the edge of a cliff looking down and across wondering what "me" is waiting on the other side of having this baby. Will I lose more friends? Will I find a voice? Will I stand up for myself more? Hopefully. So in being curious as to what my new son will be like I'm also curious as to what the new me will be like as well. I'm excited but scared for both.
Monday, April 16, 2012
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Friday, March 23, 2012
Here's the recipe:
- Elmer’s Glue® (4 oz bottle of Elmer’s Glue-All for 2 small batches, I would suggest 8 oz for 4 small batches of different colors)
- Borax (a powdered soap found in the grocery store)
- Large mixing bowl
- Plastic cup (8 oz size works well)
- Measuring cup
- Food coloring (the spice of life)
- Paper towel (hey, you’ve got to clean up!)
- Zipper-lock bag (don’t you want to keep it when you’re done?)
1. This recipe is based on using a brand new 4 oz bottle of Elmer’s Glue. Empty the entire bottle of glue into a mixing bowl. Add 1/2 cup warm water to the empty bottle and shake (okay, put the lid on first and then shake). Pour the glue-water mixture into the mixing bowl and use the spoon to mix well.
2. Go ahead… add a drop or two of food coloring.
4. While stirring the glue in the mixing bowl, slowly add a little of the Borax solution. Immediately you’ll feel the long strands of molecules starting to connect. It’s time to abandon the spoon and use your hands to do the serious mixing. Keep adding the Borax solution to the glue mixture (don’t stop mixing) until you get a perfect batch of Elmer’s slime. You might like your slime more stringy while others like firm slime. Hey, you’re the head slime mixologist – do it your way!
Here is the link to the site I used for the recipe: http://www.stevespanglerscience.com/experiment/glue-borax-gak
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Cold Tea Recipe:
2-3 slices of lemon
3-4 cloves of fresh garlic
Honey to taste or at least 1 tbs ( Please do not give honey to infants under 12 months)
4 slices of fresh ginger root
|Boil a cup of water|
|Add the ingredients|
|Let steep for 5 mins and Enjoy!|
Garlic is best known for it antibiotic properties and fending off respiratory infections/viruses
Lemon is high in vitamin C, B, B2, calcium and iron and protects your body against illness
Honey also has antibiotic and antiseptic properties, soothes sore throats and calms coughing
Ginger is an anti-inflammatory and can kill viruses
I know most people probably won't love the taste but I don't mind it. I find it a bit soothing and better than Thera-Flu (yuck)
Sit back, enjoy it and feel yourself getting better.
Friday, March 2, 2012
Mother, O Mother, come shake out your cloth,
Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
Hang out the washing, make up the bed,
Sew on a button and butter the bread.
Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She's up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.
Oh, I've grown as shiftless as Little Boy Blue,
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo.
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo
The shopping's not done and there's nothing for stew
And out in the yard there's a hullabaloo
But I'm playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren't his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.
The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I've learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.
Poem Song for a Fifth Child by Ruth Hulburt Hamilton, written in 1958 and first published in the Ladies Home Journal.
I read and re-read this poem. I have an obsession with wanting to be the perfect wife and mother with an amazingly clean home, dinner perfectly cooked, but also having time and energy to do all of the little things with my boys. I'm a fan of kids learning to self soothe to sleep but before naps M and I have this recent routine where I rock him for just a few mins, sing a song and talk, then I lay him in his bed where he promptly gets up and plays quietly until he's ready to sleep. (He likes his own playtime before naps) Sometimes when I'm sitting there starting into his gorgeous blue eyes and my mind wanders to the housework needing to be done I say to myself "I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep" N likes his one on one cuddle time with me too but it's not the same as when they're babies/toddlers. N is a big boy and rocking with mommy isn't quite as fun and cuddling on the couch watching a movie or playing together, although the message is the same. I'm coloring with my baby and babies don't keep. I love that I found this. I want my boys to look back and say "My mom payed with me, sang silly songs with me, painted the sidewalk blue because it was my favorite color, and made me my favorite food just to see me smile" not how clean our house was or how perfect our crafts came out. This reminds me to let them be them and enjoy them at each stage because I can always go back to the To Do list but I can never get back small moments.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
1 cup (More depending on the size of the room or rooms you're deodorizing) of baking soda OR Borax powder
5 drops each of essential oil.
For my 1st batch I used lemon but for the living room I made a citrus blend of lemon and orange.
Lemon oil is an antiseptic as well as having an aroma that is refreshing and rejuvenating; it inspires and clears the mind while bringing a fresh energy into the environment .
Lemon Oil is very uplifting, yet relaxing.
Orange oil is also an antiseptic and creates and inner and outer atmosphere of cheer
Citrus oils generally help to eliminate emotional confusion and increase ones sense of humor and well-being.
The house smells very light and clean with just a quick vaccum. Also much cheaper and eco friendly than tradtional carpet refreshing sprinkles.
Saturday, February 25, 2012
3 tbs of liquid castile soap (I use unscented so I can add the oils but any will do)
And add water.
Add 5-10 drops of you choice of essential oil.
In this batch I used eucalyptus and lemon essential oil (not perfume oil)
Eucalyptus has Antiseptic, Anti-biotic, Antifungal, and Anti-infectious properties. While the lemon has all the above plus Antiparasitic properties and they both smell nice :)
Pour into an empty spray bottle (I get mine at Walmart or the dollar store for about $1 each) and label it well. Shake well before each use.
It cleans in my opinion better than commercial cleaners but without the harsh chemical smell or exposure. My kids eat off the counters or drop snacks, pick them up and keep going so it gives me comfort knowing that its clean without chemical residue.